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मशवरा:Jahida Azmi

2018-01-25 09:49:33

I have been married for nine years and I have three children. After four years of marriage, my husband began to reject me, but for the sake of the children I put up with it in the hope that he might come back to me. But I have found out that he is interested in other woman. I gave up my job depending on my husband for all expenses and I did not tell anyone among our family. I tried to convince him to marry another wife and treat me in a manner that is pleasing to Allah, but he refused. I stayed with him for the sake of our children. My husband is a brilliant father and does not mistreat me, but I noticed that he spends a great deal of money on other woman. Is it permissible for me to take some of his money without his knowledge, to keep it for his children?


राय: Jahida Azmi

Praise be to Allah If your husband is spending on you and on his children, then it is not permissible for you to take any of his money, because it is haraam to take money except with the consent of its owner. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “O you who believe! Eat not up your property among yourselves unjustly except it be a trade amongst you, by mutual consent” And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Verily your blood, your wealth and your honour are sacred to one another, as sacred as this day of yours in this month of yours in this land of yours. Let those who are present convey it to those who are absent.” And he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “It is not permissible to take the wealth of a Muslim unless he gives it willingly.” If he falls short in obligatory spending, it is permissible for you to take that from his wealth on a reasonable basis, because of the hadith of ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) according to which Hind bint ‘Utbah said: O Messenger of Allah, Abu Sufyaan is a stingy man and he does not give me what is sufficient for me and my children, except what I take from him without him knowing. He said: “Take what is sufficient for you and your child on a reasonable basis” But if he is not falling short in obligatory spending, then it is not permissible for you to take anything of his wealth without his consent. So beware of taking from his wealth that which is not permissible for you, or of hiding anything of it, even if that is on the grounds of saving it for his children, because you have no authority to do that and the children have no right to their father’s wealth whilst he is still alive, apart from what is needed for their maintenance, unless your husband gives you permission to save (some of his money), in which case there is nothing wrong with doing so. So if you tell him that you are going to save any surplus from household costs for the children, for example, and he gives permission to do that, then there is nothing wrong with it, and it will come under the heading of a conditional gift to be given when one has the means to do so. You should also advise your husband to fear Allah, may He be exalted, to remember that He is always watching, and to take care of his wealth. You should also be wise in calling him to goodness and diverting him from evil; you should be patient and seek reward with Allah, and focus on raising your children. You should be patient in bearing what you dislike of his conduct, for that is better for you than destroying the household and causing hardship to the children. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Know that there is a great deal of good in patiently bearing what is disliked, victory comes with patience and relief comes with distress and with hardship comes ease” We ask Allah to guide your husband and put your mind at rest. And Allah knows best.

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